Choice: Understanding the Other Side

During my freshman year of college, I joined the campus group Students for Life, because abortion was definitely the worst thing ever and needed to be stopped. We were going to make all those crazy pro-abortionists see reason and save all the babies. 

I had never been pregnant. I had never used birth control. I had never had sex. I had never made a decision more complicated than which morning to schedule chem lab. 

Yet I knew women who aborted must be awful and callous and selfish, and clearly I made better choices. So it would certainly be up to me and my pro-life cohorts to put an end to this evil. 

Dark blue sky meets light blue water.

It seems ridiculous to recount now, but this really, really bothered me. Like, I thought about it a lot. I worried about it almost obsessively. At one point I considered devoting a career to it {as in, getting into politics to effect changes and/or switching majors to journalism so I could do investigative reporting to share the “facts” on the issue}. 

Oh, and I was definitely going to write a strongly worded book on the matter. {I had outlines, y’all.}

By my junior year, however, I placed myself firmly in the pro-choice camp. What prompted my change of heart was the simplest thing: I went to a debate/forum to basically cheer on “my” side, and as I listened intently to the “other” side {with the intention of planning the perfect retort, of course} it occurred to me—they were doing more to help my cause than I was.

These pro-choice folks whom I thought were the enemy—they were doing more to reduce the number of abortions than anyone I had ever met in the pro-life crowd. They were disseminating accurate information, talking about birth control, advocating for better sex education, and {most importantly} actually listening to women. With the exception of allowing abortions to occur “in the meantime,” they wanted everything I wanted, and were doing more to make it happen. I had it all wrong.

I never forgot that sobering moment, and I often think of this epiphany when I think I have all the answers other people need.

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  1. Go for you for seeing both sides! There’s always more to the story but I know it’s easy to get caught up in what we believe at the moment!

    1. It is, and even when we think we are absolutely certain about something, taking a step back and looking at it one more time from a different angle helps. Thank you for stopping by, Shantel.

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